A father refused to pay for his daughter’s wedding after she went behind his back and invited his brother, with whom he had a long-standing feud. The 46-year-old was blamed for making his daughter’s wedding about himself.
The father explained that in his culture, it was tradition for each family to pay for half of the wedding. But after his daughter revealed she would be inviting his brother, whom he had a long-standing rivalry with, he felt his boundaries were being crossed.
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His daughter also asked for her cousin to be the flower girl. As soon as the father heard his daughter’s words, he got angry. He felt that she was not considerate of his feelings and boundaries.
So, the father decided to put his foot down and told his daughter that he would not be paying for a wedding or even be a part of it. His daughter got angry and claimed he was making her wedding about himself.
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The whole family turned against the father. He had his ex-wife call him and scream at him for hurting their daughter’s feelings. His parents also called him, asking him to reconsider disappointing his daughter. But he ended up ignoring their calls.
The father’s girlfriend also tried to calm him down and get him to rethink his decision. She even made him aware that he risked damaging his relationship with his daughter if he backed out of the wedding.
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Why Didn’t the Man Want His Brother at His Daughter’s Wedding?
The long-standing feud between the 46-year-old and his 48-year-old brother started when the father was 20 years old.
His girlfriend at the time cheated on him with his brother, and they ended up getting married. After being heartbroken, he decided he would never be in the same space as his brother again.
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He also asked his family to help him keep his distance, but they never cut him off. That meant if his parents ever wanted to have both him and his brother over, he would automatically eliminate himself from the plans.
As much as the 46-year-old had his family turn against him, many people understood where he came from. Commenters believed there was no need for his daughter to have contacted his brother, knowing how her father felt.
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Additionally, people commended the father for setting his boundaries and sticking by them because it was not an easy decision, especially since it put his relationship with his daughter on the line.